Need Help to Move on After Divorce Guys?
There is something gut wrenching about divorce that can come close to nothing else in life. The feeling of betrayal, of powerlessness, of emasculation, or hurt and pain and loss of identity. Once the dust settles a man is left with a hollow shell of as life that is hard to fill and drives many to drinking, drugs, poor life choices and even suicide.
Moving on after divorce for men can therefore be a tricky and painful endeavour if you do not understand what is going on inside your head. This is where the real battle is. If you understand what the divorce has done to how you think and then you can change some things about yourself to turn this devastating period din your life to be a positive that can launch you to new levels of success, happiness and fulfillment.
Divorce is not the end of your story, it is the start of a new chapter where your opportunities lie ahead of you uncounted!
Why You Cannot Move On After Divorce
Moving on after divorce requires a few things for you to happen which can seem difficult. Some would say that one item is impossible for them. This is why they will never fully move on and will carry this legacy of negativity with them for the rest of their life. More on this later, the first thing you must do is go through the full grief cycle without getting stuck at any point.
The cycle of grief is something all humans go through in times of extreme loss. If we do not move through each stage we end up getting stuck in a phase and doing damage to our lives and relationships. The brief rundown of the cycle is as such:
This is not the end though, you can move through this cycle and not learn anything about yourself so you may still bear the scars of a divorce. This can be in the form of a lowe level resentment or bitterness even if you have accepted the divorce and new life. It can also come from a low self esteem that you try to boost doing unsustainable things to make yourself feel good or powerful or in control.
The last item that some will refuse to do that will hurt their chances of fully moving on and living a happier life is forgiveness.
This is at the heart of the issue, if you can forgive not just your ex wife, but also yourself for any of your actions you can untangle yourself from the problems that beset you and move on. The two are linked tightly, moving on and forgiveness are the same thing, if you do not forgive, your past will weigh you down like a ball and chain.
Read another divorce tips here: How to Survive Divorce
Steps to Move on After Divorce
There are many steps you will need to take to really forgive and move on from a divorce and life a more full and happier life. It involves a level of introspection and understanding of psychology as well as a set of goals to follow.
What you need is a roadmap to understanding the your mind, your emotions, your actions … and then what you should do to deal with those underlying issues.
However, knowing how to deal with all of life’s day to day problems as well as changing your internal psychological makeup is a tall order and something I cannot fit into this little article here.