Is Your Relationship Broken?
Do you find yourself in the midst of a relationship that is on life support, clinging to its very last breath? Are you looking for just the right medicine or just the right procedure to bring it back to life because you just aren’t ready to pull the plug?
Relationships Go Through Stages
Sometimes they’re phenomenal and other times, well not so much. While it’s normal to have moments that aren’t top of your list, the key is not letting them fall below a certain threshold. You have to take action while it’s still possible to turn things around.
Below are 5 tips on how take your broken relationship and bring it back to life:
Tip #1: Make It A Priority
First and foremost, if you want to make your relationship work, you’re going to have to make it a priority in your world. It’s easy enough to set issues aside and agree to work them out later, but if your relationship is truly on its last leg, you don’t have that sort of time to play with.
Maybe you’ll have to cut back on your hours at work or leave the kids with the sitter a little longer so that you’ll have time together to focus on developing your relationship. While you certainly can’t let everything else slide forever, maybe it’s time that something else take a back seat so that you can focus solely on saving the one thing that matters most – your relationship.
Tip #2: Be Open And Honest
It’s not always easy sharing your innermost thoughts and concerns. You risk being judged for how you feel. However, if you’re going to make this work, you owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest about what isn’t working.
Besides, you can’t adequately address a problem until you know exactly what the problem is. For example, if your partner doesn’t understand that it upsets you that you’re always the one who has to unload the dishwasher or fold the laundry, how is he or she to know that they need to fix it?
Even if the idea of sharing your thoughts makes your hands tremble and your heart pound, you’ll find so much satisfaction when you finally say what is on your mind. Of course, do it in a respectful manner so that the message is received as intended.
Tip #3: Be Willing to Change
If you truly want to fix your broken relationship, you have to be ready and willing to make changes. When you approach the situation from a position that it’s just your partner who needs to change, you might as well throw in your cards and go home.
A relationship takes two to work and, usually, two to screw up. Yes, maybe one party does something that causes more hurt than the other, but responsibility always lies with both people to some degree.
If you’re committed to making your relationship stronger and better, you have to also be committed to doing what it takes to get you there. This involves both of you being willing to make changes if it is going to work.
Tip #4: Fully Engage in the Process
Commit yourself to putting in the time and effort necessary to do what it takes to fix whatever issues you two have. Now is not the time to be okay with minimal effort or to do a half-hearted job.
You have to use all the strength and determination you have and put it into play if you want to pull your relationship up from the trenches. Yes, it takes a lot of time and effort to save a failing partnership, but it will pay off in the end as long as you participate in the process 100%.
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Tip #5: Don’t Make Failure an Option
If you say that you’ll ‘try’ to work it out, then you need to figure out if this is truly what you want. As Yoda once said, “Either you do or do not. There is no such thing as try.”
When you approach something from the stance that failure is not an option, you don’t allow yourself to make excuses or give half-efforts. You do everything in your power to make sure that success is the only viable option.
Of course it takes two to make a relationship work, but if you both approach it with this level of intensity, it can’t fail. It won’t be an option.
Even if your relationship is broken, it doesn’t mean that it’s beyond repair. Take the time to learn what is wrong and come up with a way to fix it. It will make you stronger in the long run.
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